There’s no denying that technology has helped many develop and improve relationships. Many of us would not be in a relationship if it was not for the internet and a lot of relationships are kept spicy with a saucy text message or two. But technology hasn’t been all good for relationships, and not just your romantic relationships either – technology can have a negative effect on all types of relationship, from professional to platonic, romantic to related. [Read more…]
Relationships in Australia – Are men in Australia under pressure to perform in the bedroom?
All you Australians out there may be aware of the ‘Stronger Relationships Program’, which was recently introduced by Minister for Families, Kevin Andrews. The program gives couples $200 to build their relationship with the help of guidance counsellors.
Just a month into the initiative the pilot scheme seems to be very popular.
Learn What It Takes To Go From Disasterous Dating To Good Relationship
Have you been the victim of many a failing relationship and just can’t seem to figure out why. You’re putting all the effort in and then some, but it just doesn’t seem to work out. Believe it or not, the most successful of relationships don’t need serious amounts of effort to work, they work because they don’t make the mistakes that so often destroy something potentially so good.
- They Let Go Of The Past – Yes, sometimes bad things happen in relationships, but once that relationship is over so are all the bad things that happened. You can’t let these bad things define you, or dictate the way you approach relationships in the future. People who have successful relationships manage to move on from their previous partners, putting the past firmly behind them.
- There Has To Be Give And Take – Every good relatiomship has a good balance of give and take, which results in each partner feeling like they are equals. Don’t be someone who gives their all to a relationship and recieves nothing in return, it will leave you feeling unfulfilled. Be sure that you get as much out ouf your relationship as you put in and you can be sure that it lasts.
- Space Is Good – The stength of a relationship is not measured by the amount of time you spend together. It is measured by the enjoyment you get out of the time you share and by the fun you can have without your partner. One of the keys to a long-lasting relationship is retaining your independence – if your partner is your whole world, you could end up beng sick of the sight of them. Make sure you spend some time doing your own thing, so you can share those adventures with your partner over dinner.
- Communication Is Key – Individuals in the best relationships know that you have to communicate honestly with their partner. Being afraid to speak up in a relationship is a sure fire way to create resentment over problems your partner may not even be aware of. It can be scary speaking up about something, but bottling things up is definitely not healthy for a relationship.
- Laughter Is The Best Medicine – Yes there are serious elements to a realtionship, but it is important to really let your hair down together and have a good laugh. Being able to make each other laugh, means you can diffuse silly arguments that threaten to spiral out of control with a joke. Enjoying each other’s sense of humour means that you will have so much fun doing even the most mudane things as relationships are not how they are in the movies.
- It’s All About The Love – After all, a relationship is nothing without love – they love each other, they love others and they love themselves. The let their partner into their life and trust them with their heart, there is nothing more rewarding than that.
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Is Your Jealous Partner Driving You Mad? You Don’t Have To Put Up With It
You are in love and sometimes your relationship feels like the greatest thing in the world, but at other times it can be a bit of a chore. Your partner’s jealousy is driving you mad – you catch them checking your phone, watch over your shoulder as you send emails and ask where you are hundreds of times a day. Not only is it seriously irritating, but it is also invasive – you are entitled to your own life without being accused of something.
It is important to remember that their jealousy is not your fault – unless you flirt with every man, woman and animal that crosses your path – it is often the result of their own insecurities. They are anxious that you don’t love them as much as they love you and that you will eventually leave them for someone new.
As long as your partner’s behaviour hasn’t become controlling, as this is unacceptable, you may want to do all you can to ease their fears and rid them of their jealousy for good. But, it can be difficult, when you are with a jealous partner sometimes it seems easier to be secretive, deceptive and avoid calls, because you don’t want them to confront you with a barrage of questions.
However, the problem with using secrecy and withdrawal to cope with your jealous other half, is that it can create more anxiety in your partner, which will likely lead to a rise in jealous behaviour. It is a vicious circle that will continue to become more and more disruptive to your relationship – if this cycle is not broken then it may be too much for your relationship to survive. No matter how much you love each other, there is a limit to how much strife any relationship can withstand.
The best way to deal with a jealous partner, is to work through their anxieties and insecurities together – let your partner know that they can talk to you about their worries and fears and try to understand where they are coming from. Don’t dismiss their feelings as crazy or silly, this will just make them feel even more misunderstood.
Being sympathetic towards their feelings will eventually help your partner to become more trusting, but it is going to take a lot of effort on both side and it will be tough. So make sure you let your jealous partner know that you love them and you are willing to be there to support them whatever it takes.
It may be a long process and counseling may be required, but it will be worth the effort in the long run.
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Men Can Make So Many Dating Mistakes
A few weeks ago I went into the dating mistakes that women make, so it is only fair that I include a piece on the dating mistakes that men make, because they can be just as bad as women. You might think that you are the most charming man any lady could hope to meet, when in fact you have blown your chance before you have even opened your mouth. Or following a few dates, the object of you affection realises that some of your personality traits are in fact more annoying than a persistent car alarm.
So men beware, you could be ruing in your chances of romance with these dating mistakes…
- Big Fat Ego – An inflated ego is one of the biggest turn offs there is; no one can stand that guy that can’t stop talking about himself and all the supposed great traits and experiences. It will make your date wonder what you are overcompensating for, but they probably won’t stick around long enough to find out, that’s how annoying your big ego is.
- Case of the Ex – No-one is so naive to think that you have never had another relationship in the past, but that does not mean that they want to hear about every relationship you have ever had, especially on the first few dates. Moaning about an ex sends the message that you are not over your ex and that your a guy not worth wasting time over. You don’t have to forget your ex completely, just try not to mention her in every sentence and not until you really know someone.
- Do As I Say, Not As I Do – “You know what I love, hypocrites” said no one ever. If you have a certain set of standards that you expect your date to adhere to, make sure that you do the same. If you think it’s OK to flirt with the waitress, don’t spit your dummy out if your date has a big flirt with the barman. Double standards will not make a happy relationship.
- Going All Caveman – Yes your date probably wants to feel safe with you, knowing you could protect them when the need arrives. But, your date does not want you squaring up to every guy that you think has looked at you funny. Not only is it a little bit embarrassing, it can also be a bit scary, never knowing when your date is going to blow up. So cool it and leave some of that testosterone at home.
- Being Too Possessive – The girl is already dating you, so it’s clear that she wants to be with you, so there is no need to call her every ten minutes to find out where she s, or showing up on a girls night out. No one wants to date the overly possessive guy that completely smothers them, so find some trust or prepare to be single.
Hopefully this will help all the guys out there have some more dating success.
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